Wednesday, September 1, 2010

love & respect

came across this video shared by someone on fb. dont know how true is this thing but it looks real considering you can't fake slaps like that. when i watched this video, i could not be any angrier and dont understand how the girl can just stand there and not do anything bout it. by doing so, she's actually giving more so-called power to that 'guy'. i would not tolerate such abuse. it's not like he's her parent. no guy should ever treat a girl like this.

i've always believed that a guy does not have any right to disrespect a girl in any way be it physically,mentally or verbally. first of all i think we all have to understand that while courting & dating, both the guy and girl have NO right whatsoever over the other party. even after marriage i still believe that the husband or wife has no 100% right or authority over his/her spouse. so who is it to say that you can control your partner's life when you're married much less dating. we have almost zero power to rule the another person's life according to our ways and make it miserable.

in a relationship of dating, i believe one can only suggest but not impose. if there's a change that you believe your partner should embrace, first suggest then help him/her through it and not trying to demand the change immediately and imposing it on them that it's a must and when they dont, we get angry and blame them for it. most times ppl fail to see that in the end it's still the person's choice, it's their life. there's only so much we can do but the choice is still for them to make and not for us to point the finger at them when they dont change to the person WE want them to be. it could be for the better but we're not in the position to force them rather we should be patient in guiding them through it.

such physical abuse as in the video should never happen in a healthy relationship that's filled with love and respect for one another. dont be mistaken, mental and verbal abuses are as bad. sometimes we think as long as we dont lay a finger on that person but we use harsh and demeaning words, it's not abuse. we're wrong. words can be as sharp as a double edged sword and sometimes it can hurt someone more than the physical abuse.

then you wonder, shouldn't we be building one another up with encouraging and loving words? and where is love in this picture? i thought love is....

patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13

the love mentioned above not only applies to BGR or married relationships but also to all the relationships we're engaged in our lives - parent-child, peer-peer, brother-sister, grandparent-grandchild, teacher-student, senior-junior, boss-employee, etc

haha. so this topic might be another of my random post but when i came across this video and so happened watch the episode of Glee last night where it was about respecting girls, i thought i wanted to blog bout this. hehe. so here it is.

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